Love and accept yourself the way you are!

Continuing from my last post about judgements......

As I walked past the mirror I snapped this picture because I look freaking awesome and I am so proud of my body and what she has done, more importantly I FEEL amazing!

And that is ALL that matters. No one elses opinions about me, just mine!

Let me explain

I made a post on this topic several months ago about how not one person said anything to me or even acted concerned when I had 100+lbs of extra fat on me squishing my organs and a ton of other health issues, but how several people in the last year and recently, have had no issue urging me to be careful and want to make sure I dont get "too skinny", some have already said I am.

What is funny is "too skinny" depends on who you ask and once again a judgement which is only their opinion.

*Some will look at this picture and agree that I look freaking amazing!

*Some will think I am now "too skinny", But I wonder if they would say that if I was always this size, or just because they are comparing my body now to my body size two years ago? Or are they jealous but just won't admit it to themselves?

*Some will think "yikes, I wouldn't want to be her size, she is too big".

*Some also will look at things not related to weight like others have done over the years, and will think about how they hate my hair color, freckles, and anything else they can to degrade me.

Why people feel the need to do this is on them. I have chosen this past 2 years on my healing journey to no longer take responsibility for why and to stop trying to change for others, because did they really think by saying I'm now "too skinny" that I should gain some weight back for them??

Not a chance

I lived and changed for others expectations for years and it is draining!! One person wants this and another wants that. One hates this and another hates that. You can't act this way around one person, but you can't act another way around another. Living in fear of others judgements and expectations is exhausting!!!! Plus, in the end there will always be something someone will find after you change everything for them, to continue judging you because they didn't accept you to begin with!! It is such a waste of precious time to keep trying to live up to others expectations and in fear of judgements.

Stop trying to change yourself. Trust me, It is so freeing!!

Love and accept yourself the way you are.

You are valuable because you are YOU!

I challenge each of you right now, to look and see what you are doing/not doing in fear of judgement from others and what you can do today to be more authentic, no longer caring what others think. I would love to hear what you have decided