Safe to be seen thin!

I hid with over 100+lbs of excess weight for years because I noticed the larger I got, the less eye contact people would try to make.

And there was value in that because I didn't want people to look at me, because I didn't value myself, or my body and I believed it was bad for people to look at me.

Let me explain.....

One of the reasons I hid under the weight was because I was told my body was bad and shameful since before I can remember.

One of the things that came up in my healing was that I couldn't possibly be seen thin because that meant attractive and that meant people would look at me and that meant men would lust after me and then I would be unsafe!

In the religion I was raised in, it was taught constantly that it was the girls responsibility to cover herself up, not wear anything too tight, in order to not give men inappropriate thoughts.

Now with working with clients all around the world, I see this hurt so many like it did me. And sadly, this very heavy burden is put on girls and women in so many religions. It is dangerous and heavy and honestly needs to stop!

So I had to do deep healing work around this for myself and my body and let go of the responsibltiy I had been told to carry by men.

I declared:

It is safe to be thin It is safe to be attractive It is safe to be seen thin and attractive!

and huge transformation happened for me and happens for all my clients who I help work through this, because, YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR SOMEONE ELSE!!!!

It is a bullshit cop out if anyone wants to say it was your fault for making them stare and think something inappropriate about you.

There is so much more to this obviously and if you are ready to heal this and know on a deep core level that it is safe to be seen and you are ready to stop hiding, message me. I would love to help you heal from this heavy weight you have been carrying!

PS. If this post or my shoulder offends you, I recommend journaling on the judgement you are making towards others. I understand though if you are, as I was taught to shame as well. But you can be free of that burden and heaviness too!

Also, FYI Don't bother commenting to argue or defend whatever religious organization you belong to and why those rules are in place. They are extremely toxic and I will delete it because I am not available for victim blaming and shaming when I have seen the extreme damage it has done to myself and thousands of others!