True understanding and knowing

From an early age most of us have been told we were wrong, over reacting, too sensitive, etc and were told who to trust even if everything inside of us was screaming otherwise. 

For example, we can feel tension in a room, a dog or baby knows when they dont want to be around someone, it is a vibe that is felt. They feel something that most are so disconnected from after years of being told not to trust ourselves. 

You can keep going to coaches/healers/therapists that say they can help even though they haven't done what you want to accomplish. Those that haven't been through trauma and couldn't possibly understand the feelings and beliefs that come up with certain things. You can keep trusting people to help you because they make promises and even have gotten amazing results for themselves and others, but your body knows otherwise.

Let me explain :)  

If someone hasn't been through betrayal trauma, there are things they will never understand

If someone hasn't been bullied/threatened with their life, gone through narcsisstic abuse, etc. there are things they will never understand

If someone hasn't depended on food as their lifeline while everything else in their world was falling apart, there are things they will never understand

If someone hasn't been codependent on things, people or places to love them and been a people pleaser, there are things they will never understand

If someone hasn't carried 100+ lbs for years, there are things they will never understand

If someone hasn't gone through bankruptcy, there are things they will never understand

If someone hasn't had children, birth trauma, loss, there are things they will never understand
If someone hasn't had religious or medical trauma and abuse, there are things they will never understand
If someone hasn't been physically, emotionally, sexually, spiritually abused, there are things they will never understand

If someone hasn't been a caregiver and witnessed extreme trauma daily, knowing they were helpless to do anything for the other person, there are things they will never understand
If someone hasn't had to worry about things because things were always taken care of for them, they will never understand carrying the weight of the world when it all came down to them. 

Compassion for someone and true understanding is different
No shame, it is just different
Anyone can be compassionate towards someone's trauma, abuse, situations, etc
But true understanding takes it deeper

When someone who hasn't been through it tells you that they get it and you can get through it, 99.9% of the time, the mind and body response is "yeah right you just dont get it" and its true. THEY DONT!

I know how I felt when a lady who never had money trauma just told me to do her checklist and I could manifest money. She totally disregarded everything I was telling her. I also know how I felt when a lady who had never had children, never had more than 20+lbs on her told me I just needed to work out more, disregarding everything I had said and was going through. 

When I say I get it and you can get through it, I mean it

When I talk with bodies and tell them they are safe, they see, hear and feel all the work that I have done with my body. They see someone who has been through hell and back and now feels safe and is thriving in all areas. Not someone telling them the right things, a checklist they learned, posting only good things for social media to see while still struggling, but actually seeing and feeling that it can be done. 

When I tell people they can release weight, there is a belief and trust the body feels vs someone who never carried 100+lbs, abuse, trauma, children, etc. 

When I tell people they can genuinely love themselves and their body no matter what, there is a belief and trust the body feels vs someone who has never self abused or hated themselves

When I tell people they can create money, there is belief and trust the body feels vs someone who never had money trauma and is saying you can do it. 

When I tell people they can have strong boundaries, express themselves and be in their power, there is a belief and trust the body feels vs someone who never had to deal with abuse and people pleasing. 

This is next level

This the body can feel, and it creates incredible healing at rapid speed

I absolutely wish none of the things I have gone through happened, but because I have gone through the things listed above and so much more and healed them and continue to heal as other layers come up for my awareness, I am able to say without any doubt, I understand. 

I understand the self sabotage
I understand the fear and panic and sheer terror

I understand the excuses and all the reasons why it "can't" happen
I understand the need for comfort, to hide to feel safe

BUT I also understand and KNOW that you can heal!
That you can genuinely heal, feel safe and have all you desire, no matter what you have been through.